Controlling anger is difficult, but with commitment you will be able to do it.
Controlling anger requires effort and determination.
Controlling emotional anger should be a deliberate act
Transformation will occur if you feed your mind with patience, tolerance, and love. These qualities will transform your personality from the angry and aggressive to the peaceful and friendly.
How do you transform your aggressive and angry behavior?
Transformation will start with the controlling of your emotions. The inner mind begins the transformation process using what you feed it. Moreover, your personality will begin to reflect the new pattern that your mind is shaping with the new data.
Counter negative and hostile thoughts with positive, calm and friendly thoughts. Your mind will always respond to what you feed it. And tolerance will help you listen to other people’s views even if you disagree with them.
William Arthur Ward said,
“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems — not people; to focus your energies on answers — not excuses.”
(You may also be interested in reading, “Persuasion is Better Than Force.”)
We read in Ephesians 4:22-24 how we can reframe the mind. We can renew our mind by feeding it with new positive thoughts. Furthermore, the brain will adapt to the new suggestions we feed it. As we continue to feed the mind with the new thoughts, and continue to act on them, we develop a pattern of new thoughts and responses.
The new thoughts and behaviors become ingrained in the mind, eventually becoming new habits, and transforming us into new personalities, (Romans 12:2).
Controlling anger can be done in an assertive way
Controlling anger in an assertive way should be non-aggressive. We must not use the frontal attack, no matter how much we disagree with people. Moreover, we must not be quick to become angry.
“Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, for anger rests in the bosom of fools,” (Ecclesiastes 7:9).
We must practice doing the right thing until it becomes part of our thinking and acting processes.
Leo Tolstoy said,
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”
You must, therefore, learn not to respond in anger when you disagree with people. Don’t let your emotions explode in anger when you disagree with people.
Brian Tracy remarked that,
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.”
Be slow to anger and take your time to listen to the other person.
(Suggested further reading, “Conquering Without Being Violent”)
If you truly want to change, you will persist until you have formed the new habit of patience and tolerance.