The Road To Success

Success does not come easily no matter how sincere, hardworking, and diligent you are.

Patience, loneliness and endurance will be your companions on your journey to become successful.

It is in fairy tales that people become rich instantly. In real life the road is hard and lonely. In fairy tales, good luck comes around in the form of a fairy who makes things work out easily and smoothly when people despise you.

However, in real life, the road to success is hard. It takes a conscious effort and determination to attain success. Sincerity alone does not guarantee success. That is why many people with sincere motives do not get to the finishing point on their journey to success.

People see only the negative and think you cannot achieve what you set your mind on.

While I was doing research on success and failure, I read a statement on the internet. The statement did not add the source. It stated that “a successful businessman was asked, ‘How have you done so much in your lifetime?’ He replied, ‘I grow great by dreams. I turned my mind loose to imagine what I wanted to do. Then I went to bed and thought about my dreams. In the night I dreamed about my dreams. And when I awoke in the morning, I saw a way to make my dreams come true. While other people were saying, ‘You can’t do that, it is impossible’, I was well on my way to achieving what I wanted.” (Emphasis mine.)

That is what people go through to achieve success. People may not see how you can achieve your vision. You and God are the only ones who know how you really feel about the vision.  And only Jesus can tell if you will succeed or not. If God believes in you then press on and God will take you through.

God told Gideon, “Go in this might of yours, and you shall save Israel from the hand of the Midianites,” (Judges 6:14). People may not have rated Gideon highly. However, God knew that Gideon was the one he would use to save Israel. Even Gideon himself did not think he was the right person to save Israel, and gave excuses, (Judges 6:36-40). But God used him to save Israel.

Joseph was 17 years old when he announced that he dreamed he was destined to be a leader, (Genesis 37:1-11). His family found it hard to believe him. But God used him to save the world (including his family). God called Abraham when he was 75 years old (Genesis 12:1-4), and Moses had the vision that propelled him to his leadership role at 80, (Exodus 7:7).

God sees what people don’t see.

Some of the disciples of Jesus did not attain higher education, yet Jesus believed in them. And God used them mightily to confound the so-called learned and popular people, (Acts 4:13-19).

When we read these accounts in the Bible, we accept them as true. We believe that they are possible because God is involved. Yet we find it difficult to believe and accept them when we are in similar situations and when they are happening to people we know. We find it hard to believe that what happened in the Bible can happen to us in our day. Yet it is the same God that we serve.

Jesus is with you on your journey to success. His invisible hands are directing your steps as you take each step, (Isaiah 30:21). Just don’t give up. Even if it takes longer than you expected.

Moses, fearing for his life, escaped to Midian. He was adopted by Jethro’s family and married his daughter. However, God still had him in mind. Forty years passed, then God suddenly appeared to Moses one day and said he had chosen Moses to lead the Children of Israel out of bondage.

Joseph went through thirteen years of slavery, including imprisonment. But he was the one God chose to save the world from famine, including his own family who could not believe him when he told them of his dreams.

David was regarded as a shepherd. His brothers were enlisted in the king’s army, but he was sent to look after the sheep. Yet he was the one God chose to save Israel from Goliath and the Philistines.

Jesus is your helper. Those who believe in God do not get disappointed. He provides support and guidance for people who believe in him. Though the road will be hard and rough to travel on, God will always be beside you to lead you gradually to your goal.

It is a lonely road, but God will be your companion in your journey.

With Jesus by your side, nothing will be impossible for you to achieve.

In Mark 10:27 Jesus said,

“With men it is impossible, but not with God; for with God all things are possible.” (NKJV)

As a young Christian, I heard people saying, “If by 45 you have not made it in life then forget it because you will not make it.”

I believed them until I studied the Bible deeper and read the accounts of successful people, including Harland Sanders, founder of Kentucky Fried Chicken, who became successful after he had gone into formal retirement.

Age is not a barrier to you if you are determined to become successful. In old age, your strength will not be as when you were young. And some people, observing that they have advanced in age, think they might die soon. So, they become discouraged.

Life does not begin at 45 as people say. Life begins when you decide. Moses was 80 when his ministry started, and he lived forty more years and led a whole nation.

If you have faith in God, and you believe in yourself, you can achieve your vision even at an advanced age. You may also live longer if you take care of yourself and maintain a healthy diet.

You are also not too young to achieve success. I mentioned Joseph earlier. He was only 17 when he dreamed of becoming a great person. After 13 years of challenges, Joseph became second to the ruler of Egypt. He was taken out of prison and made the vice Emperor of Egypt at age 30.

People may despise you and leave you behind. But don’t give up. Keep on running until you reach the goal.

The Cushite might have felt lonely and discouraged after Ahimaaz passed him. Joab had chosen him over Ahimaaz, a faster runner than the Cushite. However, Joab later allowed Ahimaaz to also run with the message. And though the Cushite took off first, Ahimaaz, being a faster runner, passed him.

How did the Cushite feel when Ahimaaz passed him? What kept the Cushite running still? He knew that Ahimaaz would reach King David first and give him the message he was also carrying. So, why was he still running? It turned out that though Ahimaaz reached the King first, and delivered the message, there was something special that only the Cushite could provide.

Winners win because even when discouraged they keep running. They know there are disappointments along the way. They know they may not get all the help they need.

But they believe in themselves, and they have faith in God.

Though they may find themselves in hostile environments, (or situations), they do not lose their composure. They maintain their confidence, and they do not react negatively or violently.

They go to bed thinking of success. And when they sleep, they dream of success.

They feed their minds with ideas of success. They train their minds to focus on success. They renew their minds daily and adapt to positive mentality and actions.

Their minds are transformed to accept only success and not failure. They may fail or fall. But they know it is temporary, and they will rise and continue running.

They are transforming themselves into new personalities daily. They do not conform to the world… they allow God’s Spirit to change them and adapt to God’s ways (Romans 12:2; Ephesians 4:22-32).

Aim to prove skeptics wrong.

Do not be angry when things don’t go the way you expect. Correct the mistakes and move on.

People may not see you as a winner. However, you can prove them wrong.

Winning without being violent – conquering by love and patience without hating

Winning without being violent and conquering by love and patience makes the world peaceful.

We can win without being violent. We can conquer by love and patience without hating. We do not have to win by violence.

Proverbs 25:15 says, “By long forbearance, a ruler is persuaded, and a gentle tongue breaks a bone.”

By Long Forbearance A Ruler Is Persuaded, And A Gentle Tongue Breaks A Bone (Proverbs 25:15)

Using persuasion takes time. Therefore, violent and impatient people do not want to take that route. Impatient people want immediate results.

Persuasion wins without the ugly consequences associated with violence. It avoids deaths, injuries, and destruction of properties associated with violence.

Jesus taught us to love, to tolerate, and to forgive.

We can’t use hate to make people like us. The more we hate, the more people dislike us and eventually hate us. We convert even our hostile enemies into loving people when they become our friends.

Win without being violent. Conquering by love and patience without hate makes our world peaceful. Therefore, Abraham Lincoln said, “I conquer my enemies when I make them my friends.”

I Conquer My Enemies When I Make Them My Friends (Abraham Lincoln)

Jesus met a Samaritan woman by a well (John4:5-43). The woman was antagonistic and sarcastic.

The situation between the Jews and the Samaritans at the time was almost at the boiling point of hatred. The Samaritan woman saw hate, anger, and vengeance, and so focused on hate, anger, and vengeance. But Jesus ignored her antagonistic stance and took a peaceful approach. Jesus felt the time had come for hate to end. It was time to banish hate by sowing seeds of love. Jesus, therefore, reached out to her with love.

Initially, the Samaritan woman was antagonistic in her response. She reminded Jesus that the situation between the Jews and the Samaritans was hate and anger.

Jesus continued to engage her with love, striving to turn her into a friend. Eventually, Jesus won her confidence and friendship.

We live in an age of hate and violence. People nurture hate and instill anger and hate into their offspring. They train their children to grow up hating people who disagree with them.

Jesus used the story of the Good Samaritan to teach us how we should love and help people. (Luke 10:25-37).

We may disagree with what others like or say. Nevertheless, we should allow them to express their views. We should not be angry when people disagree with our views.

It is right to be unhappy about negative things people say about us or do. However, we should control our emotions not to respond physically and violently. Violent reactions indirectly and wrongly provide proof for the perception that we are angry and violent.

Love conquers

Love Conquers, But Selfishness Prevents Us From Loving
Love Conquers

Some people express their feelings through anger and violence. Jesus, however, taught us not to return violence for violence.

In many parts of Africa, communities in rural areas have suffered economic depravity because of conflicts. Economic progress eludes these communities because investors are afraid to invest in such communities. Even indigenes of the communities prefer to invest in other communities rather than in their own.

Terrorists use violence to coerce people.

On September 21, 2013, a group of armed terrorists, the al-Qaeda-linked al-Shabaab, forcefully entered the Westgate Mall in Nairobi’s Parklands area and unleashed senseless violence upon customers and workers.

The al-Shabaab’s quarrel was with the government of Kenya, not with the ordinary people or the shoppers. Yet they unleashed their anger on innocent people who had no part in their quarrel. They thought their actions could coerce the Kenyan Government to kowtow to their demands.

The Westgate Mall massacre, by 2 pm September 22, claimed the lives of 67 people and wounded at least 175. One thousand people were rescued.

What happened in Kenya on September 21, 2013, was similar to what happened in the US on Tuesday, September 11, 2001, when a series of four coordinated terrorist attacks were launched by the Islamic terrorist group, al-Qaeda, upon the United States in New York City, and Washington, D.C. metropolitan area.

Terrorists pick on helpless people while those they have disputes with are untouched. Yet terrorists do not consider that.

Suicide bombers express their grievances by killing innocent and helpless people.

Religious militants attack and kill helpless people to get the attention of governments.

But their actions make people hate them. People do not sympathize with those who hurt them.

Conquer by persuading or by convincing people. Do not use force.

A German proverb says, “Patience is a bitter plant, but it has sweet fruit.” A similar one, “Patience is bitter, but it bears sweet fruit,” has been quoted by some as of Turkish origin, while others have attributed it to Aristotle, or to Jean Jacques Rousseau.

Jesus Christ taught Christians to express their views or beliefs by love. He told Christians, “Love your enemies and do good to those who hate you.”

Jesus used persuasion to win people’s love. He spoke to their conscience. In the face of provocations, Jesus always remained calm and discussed issues so convincingly that his opponents could not ignore them.

A woman was accused of committing adultery and brought before Jesus. The accusers reminded Jesus that the Law of Moses demanded that anyone who committed adultery must be stoned to death.

Jesus did not engage them in a lengthy argument. He did not try to talk to them to forgive the woman. Jesus said, “Anyone among you who has never committed any sin should throw the first stone.”

They all walked away without hurting the woman. Jesus turned to the woman and told her that he, too, was not going to condemn her. However, he advised her to go and sin no more. Though Jesus did not condone what she did and did not condemn her, he told her not to repeat the sin.

Do not allow your emotions to blind your reasoning. With patience, you can use persuasion to make people understand your point and accept your suggestions or views. Persuasion does not force people. If you use persuasion properly, people will not realize you are actually making them do what you want.

You may use force to get what you want. But you would live with the fear that your opponents may hurt you for revenge. You may conquer your opponents by using force and make them serve you. But that will not make them love you.

Violence breeds violence and reprisals. And that can continue without end.

Agree to sit at the negotiating table with your opponent to discuss an amicable end to the conflict or disagreement.

Anger is a difficult emotion to control. Angry people may think they are right when they are actually wrong. Anger overshadows their reasoning.

Many people are egoistic and care only about themselves. Anger, hate, and unforgiveness are always on their minds. They will hurt people and do anything to achieve their aims. They are unforgiving, insulting, sarcastic, and violent. They love hurting people with their words.

We read in Proverbs 12:18, “There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise promotes health.” (NKJV)

Our emotions can affect how we process our decisions. Anger can make us make wrong decisions.

In Ephesians 4:22-29, we learn that we should renew the spirit of the mind by putting on the new personality. We must shun anger and all evil practices by living and practicing good deeds.

Uncontrolled anger inspires an aggressive response. When we are angry, what comes first to mind is to fight or attack.

Express your anger assertively without being aggressive. Don’t attack people if you are not happy with what they say. Calmly explain to people how they are not treating you fairly.

We must always remember to control our internal responses to be calm.

Practicing makes action becomes ingrained in the mind and transforms it into habit
Practicing makes action perfect

If you feed your mind with new thoughts and act on them, they will eventually become patterns of behavior. Your new mentality directs you to do things differently.

We, therefore, have the capacity to change. Our habits are the routines of behaviors we repeated regularly until they became embedded in our subconscious mind.

The first step to take to stop being angry is to delay reacting in anger. Seneca said, “The greatest remedy for anger is delay.”

Proverbs 16:32 says, “He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.” (NKJV)

Our attitudes define our happiness.

We are the architects of the peace in our communities.

We can win without being violent.

Persuasion Is Better Than Force